What Is Anticipatory Grief?

Anticipatory grief is the feeling of wondering about the future when a beloved person is in hospice. This is a common experience. How will we spend our summer break? Where will we all meet up for Thanksgiving celebration?

What is anticipatory grief?

It is often described as feeling the sorrow of a loss or the apprehension of an impending event before it occurs. When entering hospice, it's important for the care team to evaluate both patients and their family members for bereavement support. This evaluation is particularly significant in identifying any indications of anticipatory grief.

This sadness is not only about the future, but also about the past and the present. This can be particularly evident during festive seasons.

Patients and their families may recall past holidays that brought them joy, but now they feel fear and sadness for the upcoming year without their beloved family member. Patients might express the understanding that this holiday season will likely be their final one spent with loved ones. Some families deal with guilt and anger by choosing not to participate in holiday activities, such as decorating or celebrating.

NHPCO offers some suggestions to offer support to individuals who are mourning during the festive period.

1. Show your support for how the individual decides to deal with the holiday season. Some people like traditional practices, while others prefer new approaches. It is acceptable to approach matters uniquely.

2. Do not say to someone that they should have moved on from something. Instead, offer the individual optimism that in the future, they will once again find joy in the holiday season.

3. Be willing to listen. The hospice team can effectively assist individuals in handling their grief by practicing active listening. It involves taking the time to slow down and dedicate additional moments with the person at their bedside.

4. Volunteers at hospices. They might suggest assisting patients and their families with tasks like decorating their home, shopping for holidays, or baking at the patient's place. To help people who are grieving during the holidays, show that you care about them and understand that this time is especially difficult for them. Let them know that you are there for them and can support them.

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